Solid Loved
Your Love Relationship Can Break Up in a Second…but With Work Time Will Also Repair it
Just about two weeks ago you and your loved one had that “final” argument. As the days go you already are unable to remember exactly what it was that set off the fireworks. All you know right now is that you are miserable, lonely and feel that the bright and sunny world you knew is no more. Now is the time that you have to decide just how long you want to be such a wimp! Make the decision that this will be your last night of crying the blues and tomorrow you are going to do something about it.
The absolute first thing that you MUST do is to bring the focus back to yourself. No longer do you have the jealous privilege of wondering who they are going out with or what they are doing at a particular moment. Make the decision that you want this relationship back on solid ground and that you are willing to make it work. Get your head straight and truthfully decide what your needs are in this love. Think long and hard about what caused this breakup. Above all be smart enough to realize that it probably will take longer to “make-up” with your loved one than it took to “breakup”. While there are many guides on the internet and bookstore shelves that will help you mend your relationship here are a few that will get you on the right track:
*Tip #1. Forgiveness is a key that will unlock many a hardened heart in a love relationship. This means that first you must forgive yourself. However don’t believe for a second that you are allowed to forget whatever part you had in this breakup. The forgiveness of self is to allow you the ability of acceptance for whatever must happen to get your love life back on track. Once you have forgiven yourself then your partner is next on your list. Whatever they did that helped break up your relationship has to be accepted as “history” and must be truly sincere. If you have not truly vested this forgiveness in your heart then all the previous hurts and old fears will constantly rear up their ugly heads and cause problems.
*Tip #2 Communication must also be high on your love renewal priority list. This is one of the most important t watch words in a loving relationship. And understand that this does not mean “conversation”. Your communication must include TALKING and LISTENING in order to be effective. Develop the ability to have clear concise thoughts to convey to your partner. Properly hone the communication skill and your words will become effective in solving problems. Honesty is definitely a part of this repair communication from the start. If you cannot be honest with your loved one and conceal the truth about how you feel then you just contribute further to the deterioration of your situation.
By now you should be getting the picture that reclaiming a lost love is hard work. If selfishness broke you and your love apart then it darned sure will not bring you back together. Start with forgiveness and communication. Open the door to new love up slowly and widely, taking your time to repair the past and build solid ground for the future. A new found freshness will surface in your relationship and the love felt by both of you will bring smiles to your faces.
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I appreciate the time you took to read this. If these words have enticed you to regain your lost love then maybe Pull Your ex Back should definitely be in your future!
Thank you…
gordon chandler
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